I was feeling irritated with her last night and realized that while I responded to her emails and texts, she didn't respond to some of mine. And she has confronted me in the past about not answering her emails and texts. and I have confronted her as well. It looks very much like she has this double-standard "You must answer all my texts, phone calls, emails, etc.. But I may not answer yours. And I will ignore or deny your attempts to point this out this double standard."

She has been in the habit of leaving sweet treats/candy on the counter - and then hours later or the next day loudly asking where they went and making a point of angrily/testily asking if I ate them. And also off-handedly mentioning that there is something sweet leftover. She knows I've been very careful with my diet and that I have lost 40 pounds over the last 2 years. It looks very much like deliberate sabotage on her part. It's even been the case that she loudly complains if I throw it away instead of eating it - often confronting me in front of our son. It's very much the case that I can't win. I throw it away - she mocks me/ confronts me. I eat it... .she loudly confronts me and me embarrasses me. I have pointed this out... and she has ignored me.

Several times even lately, she has said something like "well, I have ADHD, I just say and do things without thinking" and/or "well sometimes I just do and say things because I think it's funny". The message is pretty clear - "don't expect me to stop"