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Eternal Love · 06:47 PM

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Originally Posted by Rive.

That is what I was saying in my earlier post: you keep asking permission, you beg her, you plead with her, you complain how it is unfair... this is how a child would behave. You have given away all your power.

What I am saying is you inform her (you do not ask, you do not beg, you do not plead) that you will remove yourself IF you are abused. Period. Whether she likes it or not is irrelevant. Whether she excuses brother's abuse or not is irrelevant. You tell her: I agreed to eat with you, I did not and do not agree to being abused. THEN you follow through.

As for her not letting you, how can she force you? You are an adult. You choose. You remove yourself.

I have left before during a argument, I told her I do not want to suffer this abuse anymore. I told her I won’t put up with him if he treats me this way. I will eat in my room. When I left the room she followed me. She told me straight up that I must stay and eat with them. It doesn’t matter if he argues with me, just ignore him. If I don’t eat with them I have to move. They think I’m trying to be antisocial, not bonding with the other family members. Makes them uncomfortable. They don’t care that I am getting yelled at. They are used to it, so I too have to get used to it by ignoring him.There is no negotiation. I can’t express to you how much I mean “by I’m not allowed to not eat with them”. I know this sounds bizarre but I have no other choice, if I don’t agree then I have to move. I DONT want to be homeless. 😔