@Scarlet201 I cannot say I am going through the same issue, but my sister is. Her husband of twenty years divorced her. He had a daughter before he married her and they had two girls. His daughter was having her first kid around the time they had their second. Long story short they adopted 2 of their grandkids which were boys. he was always mean to the boys...still is. But when he divorced my sister he wanted 50/50 as well. Which of course the kids mainly live with him because of school. She gets them on her week but has to take them home every night for school. The only reason he keeps the boys because he gets a check from the state for adopting them. The whole thing is a mess. My sister loves them kids so much that she will not fight him because she wants her kids lives to be joyful as possible. My heart really goes out to you honey. You can still give them kids a good life and they will see you for you and their Dad for who he is. I see it in my nieces and nephews. I can relate to the father not doing what he needs with the kids. My son is an adult now and tells me I am the one that taught him everything. He had to learn some things on his own because there is just some things I couldn't teach him. He is a good man despite his father never really having anything to do with him. His Dad was always in the home. Times will be tough sometimes, but you are better off without him and the kids will always have you. Be the great mom that you are and let them figure out on their own what type of person their dad is. My sister's kids will trash talk their dad to her, but she doesn't say anything bad about him to them or around them. Three of them are teens and the oldest has a baby of her own. Her husband is a lot like how you describe your husband. I never did like my sister's husband to say the least. You got this girl....