So mathematician dude has a habit of suddenly dropping off in the midst of a texting session or conversation and not returning for many hours. Yes, he is a very busy guy, this is true, and I think I've texted him while he's frequently been in the middle of something he's doing, but still... the sudden drop off followed by silence for many hours has been bothering me.

So I finally said something to him about it yesterday, commenting that I've noticed he does this. I don't know or can't tell if his reply was defensiveness or not, but he tried to say he didn't feel he was doing that, then later said there was one time where he felt he did do this. He also tells me for the second time that he's bad at texting and is not like other people. So I told him I am very used to a lot of texting with my friends and family, and that I probably do text a lot.

Still, I don't like when someone disappears on me out of the blue or mid-conversation, which leaves me hanging for many hours just waiting for them to get back to me.

Or maybe I need to get busier myself and not expect so much out of someone this early on... I told him I want to volunteer, or hike more or start writing again. I've talked on here about building my hobbies more.

It's not his fault that I'm not as busy as he is. I realize that I need to fill my life up with more to do and more activities so that I don't feel this way, but also to make my life as complete and fulfilling as possible without a man.

In fact, last night I had to cut HIM off because after I said this to him, he started to text TOO MUCH with many lengthy texts and I wanted to go to bed and call it a day.

Oh, the joys of the dating world and of setting expectations. I just began to feel like he has all the control and it made me worry that that is what he is after... I am on alert for any red flags in behaviors. I am not repeating past mistakes - no way no how. I have learned my lessons in dating, I feel, and now it's time to apply those learnings.

Today is Tue. I have a four-day weekend coming up! And a concert out of town Friday night that I am attending by myself. I got myself a hotel room, so it's a mini break and mini vacation out of town. I decided to treat myself so that I can have a few drinks, truly relax, and not have to worry about driving an hour plus home late at night after the show. I will Uber to and from. I have learned my lesson in terms of drinking and driving. I am being smarter and more cautious.

So I will see how conversations over text pan out with him now that I have said something to him.