I know it's the ol' boring question that people saw and probably answered hundreds of times before, but hear me out, I don't mean objectifying women or any hateful accusations, let's not get into that kind of arguing, all I am saying is..
I 23yrs old virgin male literally never even held hands with a girl, in my third world country it's normal that most of the "unmarried" people are virgins, for me, I don't plan on getting married, in fact I decided that I will never do so, but despite that, I want to try sex, I want to try intimacy ( even when it's not allowed nor accepted in my country, religion nor culture) but let's not get into that, and usually girls who do so here in my country are either hoes/prostitutes or so rare (if they aren't hoes), I am still in collage, to be able to find a "virgin friend with benefits" if I got to know a girl and she happens to not be one, after she knows my intentions she can spread bad rumors about me, and trust me these kind of stuff could literally destroy your life and identity, so it's a huge risk. so it's either I get extremely lucky, or I fix the way I am thinking, so if anyone can convince me to stop feeling grossed or disgusted by that, I'll appreciate so...
let me demonstrate what I meant exactly, what exactly makes me feel disgusted, the fact that a girl had someone before me inside her makes me feel disgusted, the fact that she kissed or sucked someone else before me makes me feel disgusted of even kissing her let alone eating her out. it's like my brain think that she carries dicks particles, or the DNA of the guy/s she have been with before whether it's in her mouth or down there.
especially with the new studies suggesting male DNA can still be present in a woman after she's had sex, and the genetic materials from a previous sex partner can stay in her body for some years.
(don't tell me to go to therapy)
(yes this "untouched" rule is more important than emotions and feelings between me and the potential partner)