That is awful to experience abuse from your parent. No one should have to go throught that @ghostsinthehouse - I hear you.

I felt like many things were forced on me by my parents and so I kept a grudge going in my head for a long time. I really suffered by it and the anger that accompanied it. I finally got some peace when I realied that my hlappiness is in my mind. When I am angry I am not happy.

You may be right she may be trying to get something from you. That can be an uncomfortable feeling.

Now that they are gone I am starting to appreciate some of the kindness they showed me when I was a helpless infant and toddler. I do not want to take those grudges to my deathbed so I am learning to let go of them. It even helped me when mom was alive to thank her for some things she did when I was struggling. It helped me.

CANDC

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