Well, my opinion is, you could be with a lady who's not a virgin, who takes care of personal hygiene, self care, all that. You're just too scared to be proactive about it - waiting for a virgin to come rescue you from your insecurities. Ok bro? Don't try to paint women as some kind of dirty "sub species" here. This is the West. We don't think of women that way unless you already have warped ideas.