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Default Nov 09, 2024 at 09:33 AM
 
Finding a room sounds like a good start going in a better direction. So, if he was willing to have children, you would have stayed with him? Over the remainder of this month, you may go back and forth on your decision. You may get cold feet about going off on your own. He may decide to hold on to you by telling you some b.s. about how he might be willing to have children. Ask yourself this - Is this the father you would want for your children? What do you think a future child of yours deserves? He doesn't make you feel loved now. Do you imagine that he'll be more loving with a crying baby in the picture? The job of raising children is very stressful at times. Parents who deeply love each other usually find the strength to cope with the demands of child-rearing. The fastest way for a young woman to ruin her life is to have a child by a man who is not ready to love and support her 100%. I don't think this boyfriend of yours measures up.

Babies can come with surprises. What if you gave birth to a "special needs" child? No pregnancy comes with a guarantee that the baby produced will be healthy. What if you have a baby and it isn't healthy? How much confidence do you have that this man would stick around and rise to the challenge? I wouldn't want to bet your child's future on it.

Every man has faults and deficiencies. I could put up with a lot of faults (and I have), but if a man does not have a warm, loving heart, that's a fault I could not put up with. Since you have no family, it's even more important for you to settle down with someone who has a good heart. I suggest you keep looking.
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