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LonesomeTonight · Nov 10, 2024 at 09:15 AM

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Originally Posted by ArtieTheSequal

H just called. He's not feeling well at all, he's had a cough for several weeks that won't go away, well it seems to but then comes back, he tested for covid several times always negative, went to dr who sent him for chest xray which was completely normal, he went on his trip because the day they left he was feeling alright but today he sounds horribly depressed. I really don't know what is going on with him. He thinks it's his heart causing all of this and that

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the end is nigh. He does see a cardiologist regularly because he has afib or whatever and is on medication for that. I don't know what to think. But I am glad I made that meds change recently because it's really helping me to deal with his health issues without falling apart and making him feel worse. He told me a long time ago before we ever got married that I should not expect him to live past 70 because of all the drugs he used to do in his younger days. Partly I think it's because he'll be turning 70 in 3 months and he has never expected to live past that, that's he's talking so fatalistic. Today he said he went on this trip with his longtime group of friends because it will be the last chance. Like to say goodbye. He was going to take a nap when we hung up. I left a message with the cardiologist office requesting an appointment after he gets back.

I guess I just needed to talk about this.

I'm sorry your H is feeling so negative about his health and life. That sounds difficult to deal with, so I'm glad your meds are helping you with it. My H tends to get a lingering cough after even just a regular cold, so maybe it could just be that? I also wonder if he could be reacting to something in the environment, like an allergy, or if it's possibly some form of asthma (my sister-in-law has asthma that primarily shows up as coughing).

Do you think it would help him to check in with the cardiologist again? Or maybe he's in a place where nothing a doctor tells him/negative tests will help him feel better. I imagine he's not open to therapy, based on how he's felt about yours at times...