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Originally Posted by WarmFuzzySocks
I think I just broke up with bicycle guy.
My girlfriends have been warning me “red flags! flaming red!!!” for over a year. Knowing that doesn’t make the “I need to fix it right now!” part of me feel any better.
Plus I feel stupid for ignoring the control and criticism and etc. You’d think I’d have known better. Apparently nope.
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I'm really sorry you're feeling this way. Breaking up, even when it's for the best, is always painful and complicated.
It’s understandable to feel conflicted, and it’s perfectly normal to have a part of you that wants to “fix” things, even if you know deep down it wasn’t healthy.
You aren’t stupid for giving someone a chance or for hoping the relationship could change. It’s human to want to see the best in people, especially when you care about them. Your past decisions don’t make you any less wise or capable—they just show that you were hopeful and caring.
Sometimes, it takes time to see patterns of control or criticism, and that’s not a reflection of your intelligence or worth. You recognized a problem, and you took action, which is incredibly brave.
Grief is painful, and trying to suppress it often makes the healing process longer. It's good you've got your girlfriends in your corner.