At 71, I have learned that life comes in seasons. No matter how bad I want summer to stay, I can't make it happen & I need to move on to fall. Winter comes when it happens & we have to adapt to that also. After cold winter comes spring & thrn we adapt to that. None of the seasons are ever the same even from year to year. I try to find beauty & things I enjoy in each season, adapt to the changes & find happiness in the things around me that I truly enjoy. Each person has their own different seasons in life that don't correspond to ours & accepting that is all part of life. Taking a more independent outlook on life is helpful no matter how we might have been raised. We need to view life the way it helps us live peaceful & calm within ourself.