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Originally Posted by NovaBlaze
I think this is really positive in a way, because you have recognised the pointlessness of obsessing over it, and that the only person you are hurting is yourself. This is a point where you can choose to move on and put them both out of your mind.
I’m an obsessive person, and sometimes I know I have to go through a long period to the point where whatever it is I am obsessing about drives me close to the point of exhaustion. Then it’s like a black cloak being lifted off me, and I start to see the importance of focusing on other things - no matter how small, no matter how short a time. It’s breaking the thought pattern that matters.
They don’t matter - you do. You deserve to find a happy future, and some peace and quiet, irrespective of what has happened in the past.
With my own struggles, over many years, I have gradually come to realise that the only person who can truly help me is myself. Counselling helps, medication helps, but ultimately I have to choose to help myself, to have faith that I can help myself, that I can get over whatever life throws at me. It’s not easy though.
I feel your pain.
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NovaBlaze, thank you for your empathy and support.
I think I am just about at the point of exhaustion. Now I have to act on my decision. I have to follow through and cease the obsessive activity.
Easier said than done. I, too, can be obsessive it looks like. I didn't fully realize this until now.
Things that I know are best for my health - sometimes, I don't follow through. But I am trying - I will keep trying to break the habit. I know I deserve peace of mind and happiness - and this is dragging me down.
And you're sooo right. Only I can truly help myself and do what's best for me.
I think I will block them and that will stop me from looking at their profiles for information.