Two more things....

Users find solid, loving people.

If you weren't solid, reliable, able to provide, able to nurture, able to produce an income, a user would never have found you.

My daughter's therapist said to me, "I don't need to know much about you, I'm certain you're a good person. That's who they find."

My friend, a lawyer said, "If this is mental health, she has to crash. If this is addiction, she has to crash. If you want to get her back, you never negotiate from a place of weakness. Take some time and become stronger. Lock down your finances. She made this choice."

Thankfully, those things instilled some external validation and helped me see value in me.

And.... IF she is moving forward with separation, you have to stop talking. All communications, emails, texts, etc. can be used in family court. At some point, if someone decides this relationship is over, you need to stop talking. Every snippet of what you say can be used in court.

Let's keep moving. OK?

RDMercer