OMG!

That is both true and scary! The worst parts of her I've seen are who she truly is.

My new therapist pulls no punches, does not talk in circles, and cuts right through a lot of stuff.

When I told her my history and what others had said, she said, "Then we are going to move forward as if all that you are saying is true. I have a responsibility to you as my patient to build you up and help you recognize the disordered personality you lived with."

Over four sessions she got me to relay some specific examples of things that occurred.

After session four she said, "There are aspects of covert narcissism for sure, but also borderline personality because she really can't emotionally regulate. But she also repeatedly did things that damaged you in some way without benefitting her. That is not covert narcissism or borderline. This is someone who wants to harm you for no personal gain in what ways she can, either your reputation, your finances, or whatever, even though the minor is with you full time. That is psychopathy. "

That scared me. She said, "That should scare you. Recognize this is someone who can, and who wants, to cause you harm."

And if she showed up at my door crying, in emotional pain, with nowhere to go.... I'd struggle to say no to her.