It took a lot of courage for you to do this so I will back you up. I just found out that I also have it. I had my first and only outbreak 3 months ago, while I was pregnant. My (current) husband tested negative, so I know I must have contracted it from my first husband, who I was with from 1993 to 1999. When I first started dating him, he complained about getting 'yeast infections' on his stuff, and since he wasn't circumcised, it seemed plausible to me. After 2 years together, he either discovered or decided to confess that the 'yeast infections' were actually herpes. Great. Oddly, I did not have a single outbreak until 10 years after we had last been intimate, but the virus doesn't disappear.

It is an annoying and painful skin condition, but it is not dangerous or life-threatening (except to an unborn baby - get medication during the last month of pregnancy). If there wasn't such a stigma, I believe we could reduce its spread because people would be more open to talking about it. Consider eczema or chicken pox - there is no shame in those conditions...