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Originally Posted by ChickenNoodleSoup
Scarlet, hugs... that sucks. Though some income sounds better than none for the moment? Hard to say from here of course...
LT, I'll just throw something out that my (hopefully soon ex-partner) says all the time and I still struggle with (he has Asperger's and from my impression it's pretty severe): if he'd say "why are you here" when I am in a room, he'd probably want to me to take it literally. I.e. why am I currently here, is there something that needs to be done? Not in a mean way at all, just what's going on kind of. Your D might also perceive some part of the house as "her hangout room" and then when you are there and there is no reason, maybe she wonders? I really, really struggle with just taking things literally when he says them, but most often, whatever he says is translated very literally to the situation and does not have any ill-intend at all. Of course I don't know whether it's the same for her.
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Realized I never replied to this. This is a good thought, CNS, but it's pretty clear that she just doesn't want me around. For example, just now, she was coming down the stairs and said, "Oh, no, Mommy's in the kitchen." I said no, that I was just in the living room, not the kitchen. So she went ahead and went into the kitchen. That's likely a bad example. But times she has come in the kitchen and asked why I'm there, if I say I'm making something to eat, she still seems upset, sometimes to the point of acting like she's going to kick me (like doing a kicking motion from a distance).
I met with the child psychologist, K, Thursday, and she suggested just ignoring her or responding neutrally when D does things like that. So I'm trying to do that for now as best I can.