Thank you @NovaBlaze, but I don't feel in control. I feel I have no choice in the matter. I dated for a whole year during and after my divorce. I only met more abusive men. So I stopped dating altogether. That's why I am afraid of whom I attract, or the types of men (and women) I attract. I've also had many toxic females befriend me over the last year - these so called friendships have all ended explosively.

I am hiding now from people, in a way, even though I go out and socialize. I am very wary. I am empathic, very open, very social, and very friendly, normally. Now I am becoming a lot more closed as a direct result of those I tend to attract.