@NovaBlaze, thank you again... unfortunately, I am just not ready to be looking for jobs again. I spent years doing that; trying to find the right job. I feel I am in a good place at work except for my boss.

I feel perhaps i did act a little bit out of line the other day at work. But I did apologize to all those involved. I was upset, and I was acting out my upset.

I think with this meeting on Monday I will back down from taking any issues to HR, and I will tell him that. I want to try and resolve the issues, or troubleshoot the issues, with my boss's boss. I know going to HR usually places a target on your back. Coincidentally, I just saw a post on LinkedIn about just that - that HR is not on your side and is there to protect the company, not the employees.

I will simply just be more neutral and will see what he has to offer for solutions. I will ask him not to speak with my boss about my issues with her. He may still do that. but I want to ask him not to. I think I will approach this with the attitude of: how do I do my job well when my boss is telling me basically to NOT do my job?

The whole issue had blown up the other day because I was asked for my input by the woman who approves my work to be launched on the website. I gave her my input and wanted to make a couple of minor changes to some text. She deferred to our copywriter, who then said the directive came from someone else. So I wanted to check with that person, and that's where and how the conversation spun out of control and people got upset. The woman who approves my work had asked for my input, then didn't want to implement what I was suggesting. So why ask for my input then in the first place? Then it turns out she is actually totally overwhelmed by the volume of requests I have been sending her for approval on the website.

And my boss came down hard on ME for all of it, giving me a lecture about the company culture being a collaborative one where strong relationships are a part of the cultural fabric and foundation. Well, I didn't need a lecture, and I was simply trying to fix something that would have undone my own work on the website!

I told my boss this too, afterwards. I told her, this is highly unproductive for me to do work for the website, only for that work to be completely undone by another team's desires for what should go on the website. And it is! It's insanity.. what's the point of my even being there then, if my work is first implemented, and then undone?

Even after I had tried to apologize to my boss about it, about the messaging "swirl" that had ensued as a result, she STILL came down hard on me, and I am sick of this kind of treatment.

I need to at least make her boss aware of what is going on - and maybe that will be my primary goal: awareness. And then hopefully, he will have some ideas for me as to how to handle my boss. That will be my other goal: figure out how I deal with a boss who likes to berate me and micromanage me.