My father had a temper too. It was fueled by anxiety and fear. If I could have understood that sooner it would have made it easier to tolerate. Like for instance he got viciously upset with my horse for kicking out at me. He only did it cause I had spent hours practicing how to jump from his rear onto his back like they did on tv. But my dad lost it and was hitting my horse on the head. He feared for my life. He raced cars as a side activity and spent time doing stuff to cars. He get frustrated and lose it when things didn’t line up. Unfortunately I have a temper too but I’ve spent a lifetime getting it under control. Mine too is from fear and anxiety. Being poor a acerbates it. I don’t know if that’s what drives your father at all but you might try reassurance and telling him that things are ok.
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