@Nammu thanks it’s good to have a reminder about reassuring him, oh boy, I do get stuck in my emotional mind when he flies off the handle.

I think with my dad it’s frustration because I suspect he’s more aware of the cognitive decline than he likes. to admit to others. And I suspect he’s had brain changes which make it harder to control his emotions.

It’s funny you should share your experience about the horse and your dad’s angry reaction- my dad once trashed a coffee table because my sister fell over it. I always thought it was a funny story, because I wasn’t yet born so didn’t see it happen. But really it was a sign he didn’t really cope well when things went unexpectedly wrong. I think we all knew that dad had to be handled with care even as children. To this day there’s only my sister who understands what it was like.