Had an argument with a guy who blew up on me for answering his questions


I was discussing online with several people regarding an incident with a lady who had an allergic reaction and the people were saying it was her fault. I on the other hand, believed it wasn’t.

Then one guy came up to me and asked me a question regarding the situation and wanted my opinion on it. He said:

“what would you have preferred happened in this situation with this woman?”

My reply was:

“I just wish people would stop bashing on the lady and claiming her allergies are her responsibility even though she didn’t even know she had it.”

A little peeved, the guy replied:

“I mean at the restaurant.”

I replied to him immediately:

“I wish the server wasn’t so disrespectful to the lady and unnecessarily blaming her for not being aware of having allergies.”

The guy replied to me, sounding like he was trying not to flip:

“I was ready to jump on and say that she needs to be responsible for herself, but if she doesn’t even know she has allergies, then it’s really not her fault. It’s really no one’s’ fault, and at the very least, I agree, the server could have some compassion. I’m sure the server felt defensive and afraid they were gonna get blamed, but we need to be humans with each other first and foremost.

No amount of food labeling or communication with wait staff would have helped if she didn’t know she was allergic to mushrooms.”

My reply was:

“Even if she did know, how would she know if there were mushrooms mixed into her food if they didn’t flat out state how they would use their ingredients?

You can’t see everything that’s contained in the meal based on the pictures you see. That’s how I realized I had an allergic reaction to pecans.”

Just then, people started to boo at me.

The guy responded:

“So then if she did know she was allergic to mushrooms, how would you have liked it to be handled at the restaurant? With every ingredient listed on the menu?”

Some of the people who supported him were like “ooh! got ‘er!””. But I wasn’t finished yet. My reply was:

“She would have a much easier time avoiding the food if she found certain ingredients she’s allergic to, and the situation wouldn’t have happened.”

Of course, I got booed at again.

The guy suddenly blew up on me and said:

“I’m not trying to be a d*** here, but, is that a yes? You’d like menus to list every ingredient?”

I replied:

“It’s the only way to avoid these situations. People are going to find out anyway through the internet.

Why do you have a problem with it?

Oh that’s right, because you were the one who asked these questions to me and got offended when I gave you my thoughts.”

The others were very angry and said nasty things at me.

I replied:

“And by the way you and your friends act to disagreements, it’s obvious we’re never going to make a reasonable discussion. You’re willing to s*** on a woman for having allergies like it’s her fault all while excusing the behavior of obnoxious employees, yet she’s still the bad guy? We’re done here.”

I cut off contact with these people and went my way.