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Originally Posted by eskielover
Will chime in here cause it all sounds so familiar to kinda what I went through in my life.
I never lived alone until I was 54 (17 years ago). Lived at home with my parents until I got married at 21. Stayed in the bad marriage 33 years. The last 13 years of those 33 were hell & I seriously tried to end my life so many times because I couldn't get a way out after my career ended with me having a breakdown & aerospace engineering had crashed so no jobs if I had recovered from the breakdown.
By 2007, I had no family left & my daughter had moved across the country so when a door opened for me to escape the marriage, I moved 2100 miles away where I didn't know anyone & bought a small farm with my inheritance. My now ex fought getting a divorce before I left cause he didn't want to give up anything so I walked out with nothing. Found out 11 years later he didn't want a divorce because he thought it would make him look like a loser.
Sadly he was so financially irresponsible that he ended up losing the house that finally ended up with equity & sold it for almost nothing before the final foreclosure date & just before the divorce was final that I filed in the state where I live. Walking awsy from everything saved my sanity. I found an outstanding Therapist here who helped me process my whole lifetime of living around dysfunctional family & heal from it all.
I live in a small town of 8000. Love it & know many in the community. Not as active as I was when I first moved here cause I just got an Aussie Shepherd puppy a year ago & his energy level keeps me busy at home along with farm sitting for friends when they need it.
Never would have thought that after getting my Accounting & Computer Sci degree in 1978 & having an aerospace computer design engineering career that I would end up in farming country & never feeling so happy & peaceful as I never felt before in my life. I do take care of my own little farm. Have learned so many great skills (many from YouTube) but nothing I can't do unless I don't have the muscle or it requires an expensive tool I can't afford.
After living around dysfunctional people all my life & 33 years of fighting in my marriage, living alone is a pure blessing. I can be with people when I want & I can just chill & relax at home. I have about 4 acres of field I mow & the rest is woods I can just hike around with my dog. It feels like heaven after thev1st 54 years
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If you don't mind me asking, what led to your divorce?