Glad to see you are a member of the MSF community! I am sorry you are still trying to dig out from under all the misconceptions and undoable expectations that happen when anyone is in a relationshiop.
They say that losing a romantic partner is comparable to the loss due to death. The relationship that one had such great hopes of fell far short of what was hoped for. Grief is a long process in my experience. The more I turn toward grief and letting go of those expectations, the less sad I am.
For me finding joy involved reinventing myself after the losses and trying a new creative expression. If you want some online activiities that could help bring back the joy, either reply to this post or private message me by clicking on CANDC to the left of this message and on the popdown menu select "Send Private Message to CANDC."
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