So my boss wanted to speak to me on video yesterday to follow up on the meeting I had called with her to discuss last week's incident and how I felt treated by her.

She suggested that if we get into yet another messaging "swirl" as she likes to call it, that one or both of us says "let's pause" and then we get on the phone to discuss it instead of in writing.

I agreed to this and thought it was a good plan. We do seem to communicate differently in person - she is never overtly harsh towards me to my face. I get these lectures and berating from her mainly over instant messenger, which is all in writing. No, I am not misinterpreting her either - this is now a pattern of behavior that I have witnessed and experienced.

Then I thought, after agreeing to this new approach, that she is trying to avoid having any evidence be in writing. That's my cautious side talking. And I realized that it would next become a matter of "she said vs she said" type of argument if it happens again, with no concrete evidence.

Doh! But I agreed, and I cannot take it back now. Ugh Ugh ugh.

I meet with her boss today about this whole issue. I will post an update after today's meeting. Oye.