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Originally Posted by Bill3
Have you reflected on what worked well /didn't work well in the past? Take, for example, the recent experience you described. You gave a reason to calmly leave the room. You said that it worked, though you were shaken. Could that be a useful technique going forward? In other words, possibly in the future you would not be so shaken, since you would have a plan in place?
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Thanks, that’s very good advice. I need to try to stay in my calm/rational mind not my emotional one.
I do find myself triggered a bit recently with my parents/dad particularly. A few days ago he told me he was disappointed in my adult son (something which was a personal choice my son had made rather than any misdemeanour or wrong doing) and I stayed calm and said “That’s interesting you use the word disappointed can you tell me why that is?” I was so proud of myself for not reacting emotionally. especially as it was a trigger situation for me because a) He was criticising my son b) There have been several times when I know he was disappointed in choices I made as an adult.