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Dec 05, 2024, 10:56 AM
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Member Since: Oct 2004
Location: Kentucky, USA
Posts: 25,074
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@ArmorPlate108 told me anger is the part of you that loves you and wants to protect you. So.... Be angry for a while. You deserve better.
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Definitely, I got angry every time I felt that my plans for my life were being threatened or someone was actually trying to take them away. I was like that ALL my life & don't know where it came from cause my parents weren't anything like that. Lol....my mom was sure they gave her the wrong baby in the hospital because I always had a "don't mess with me attitude" when pushed too far.
Boundaries definitely define one's limit of tolerance.
I think when independence is at the core of your being it sometimes goes away when things feel impossible in life & one feels like no amount of fighting will help. I know for those last 13 years in my marriage everyone commented that "this is not the you we know". Think it was more my coping mechanism for the situation I was in at the time. As soon as I got out (immediately) my independent self was back stronger than ever so I'm thinking that it wasn't damaged, just put on hold.
Just some thoughts based on my OWN experience not on someone telling me this is what happened. I got angry at a psychitrist at an eating disorders treatment center I was in for 6 weeks. He kept telling me why I was anorexic & wouldn't listen to "my why". It was like I was blindly supposed to agree with his reason & HE WAS WRONG. Sometimes we listen but need to do our own analysis.....ugh, this is definitely my independent thinking I have has all my life but in reality when functioning, it has served me well
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Leo my soulmate will live in my heart FOREVER Nov 1, 2002 - Dec 16, 2018
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