very good nightbird, i agree with all you've said.. i began to feel a buildup of sadness for past harms.. i know my past behaviors were less kind than i am attempting to make them now... i've learned that i can project kindness to others and i've been able to improve my relationships with many..

im so thankful for those who are able to forgive.. it shows in their heart a kindness and strength that i aspire to grow within myself...

i think its great so many responded here, its this kind of spirit that can help the world in so many ways... you each are kind and wonderful people in my book...

i wondered if anyone really sees the point in blaming? i've wondered about it a lot cause when my mom had her accident, it changed all our lives so much and i asked myself who was at fault?

i thought about it for a really long time and i cant blame her..... i do wish we were able to talk about it more... i imagine she feels painfully guilty... i want her to know i forgive her, but that would mean its her fault....

fault is such a heavy label... i know it would break her heart if i blamed her...