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I left after 33 years in a bad marriage. What I found is that after I left, I was responsible for my own happiness & could no longed blame unhappiness on someone else. I got to make choices I knew/know are good for me. I get to choose what my life will be like. I am responsible for handling everything in my life now & adjusting what I need to make it work instead of getting angry at "that other person" for screwing things up. I love being responsible for me. I have never been happier in my life than I am now & it is such a relief not to live around someone who 24/7 was making bad choices that was messing up my life.
Leaving gets to be what you make it, responsible for yourself. That can be truly liberating to be independent. I had never lived alone before that time & my leaving was moving across the country from big city to small town where I knew no one,. to start life over. Best decision I ever made in my life. It is our own responsibility to make life better. For me, leaving reinforced my knowledge that it wasn't me that was the problem. Not everything has always gone well but I have the ability MYSELF to work through the tough things better than I ever did fighting with my husband. & being unhealthy & unhappy. I finally feel peace & happiness for the first time in my life
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Leo's favorite place was in the passenger seat of my truck. We went everywhere together like this.
Leo my soulmate will live in my heart FOREVER Nov 1, 2002 - Dec 16, 2018
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