I bumped into her randomly recently, and had my daughter with me.

All in all, we both handled it quite well.

she DID hit me with a jab at the time, and in email after, that caused a reaction in me.... But only about 25% of what it used to cause.

I'm working on this before court. I'm working on building immunity to being baited.

I think she was dumbfounded that DD put up such a strong boundary in the moment, and so simply.... "Can we talk?" "No thank you" "Can I give you a hug." "No thank you, I'd rather not."

If there is any dose of reality working its way through, she must realize that whenever we go to court she's going to get roasted by the kids and will end up losing guardianship of DD.

We could end up in court in January and she could be proudly righteous, or she could be the beleaguered victim fighting for her rights, or she could ignore anything to do with the kids and only focus on finances, or she could run from this until DD is 18 so she doesn't have to face losing guardianship and the stigma that comes with that.

No idea what to expect.

I'm really, really happy I practiced this stuff and got these lines prepped ahead of time.

Also.... She sent me two emails this week. It is killing me to check them and shoot something back, but I haven't opened them yet.

She's used to getting an immediate response from me. She also, I expect, tries to incite something in me because of some kind of needs she has for that. Well... I'm hoping she directs that energy to someone in her bubble instead.

RDMercer