Hugs, Lost. Glad you were able to talk to your contact at the helpline. And sorry you're unsure what you want to do. I know you mentioned the weather being an issue for what you had planned--could you maybe do what you were planning on a day other than his birthday? Even if it's early next year?

Also, I got the sense (if I'm wrong, sorry!) it was about writing on something ceramic, then breaking it. Could you maybe write on paper and rip it up instead? Or crumple it up and throw it in a trashcan? At least, for the actual day, then do the ceramic another time?