H had me tell L about my anger towards her. That I wasn't expressing it to the person who deserves it. L asked me what I truly felt like doing. I told her I wanted to scream at her. She tried real hard to convince me to yell at her, but I just couldn't. I prefer being quiet and small even if my instinct is to be loud and big. (I have yelled at her in the past, btw.)

There's a quote L sent me: "Your anger is the part of you that knows your mistreatment and abuse are unacceptable. Your anger knows you deserve to be treated well, and with kindness. Your anger is a part of you that LOVES you". She tells me that anger isn't bad or dangerous. And sometimes anger needs to be shown, not just told. Anger is only dangerous if you act is out in unsafe or unhealthy ways.