Yes and then there is that threshold where they black out. That can get scary too because within that level their anger can surface and some will even strike out.

The hard part when it comes to sobriety is not so much the physical addiction but what to do with the emotional dysregulation. A therapist told me at one point that my husband only had the maturity of 13 year old. Well that’s about how old my daughter was at the time. In all honesty I did not really have an adult partner but instead two very young teens. Yes it did get lonely.

This type of individual often blamed others or plays the victim and sits and retells stories not with the real truth but THEIR own version of the truth. They do this to self regulate their emotions. Yes, I think
You are recognizing the projections. This is a pattern you can’t change or fix. In fact they will even do this with a therapist.