Welcome to MSF @LostinMI - I am sorry you are struggling with someone who is inventing their own reality or unreality. That must be rough on you trying to have a relationship with her.

You said " She is convinced that nothing is wrong with her, that she has some special ability to hear voices, and that the planes and helicopters following her are all a part of the big criminal investigation, and possible witness protection for her." I cannot diagnose her but my partner had manic episodes and they really lost touch with what other people saw as real. If it were not for meds, ECT and inpatient care, she may not have got out of that mindset.

You also said "So now the point of this post.... Keeping in mind I love the woman who is trapped underneath these mental issues and I wan
t things to be normal with her so bad, is there ever a chance of having a semi-normal relationship with her?" From my experience the only way things improve is if they get psych help and keep staying with it.

"Is there any way to backtrack and try to get her help?" With the HPPA laws and the rioghts of people to refuse medical assistance, I do not see a way that you as a partner without marriage can do anything.

" I know the only way she will get therapy at this point is if something terrible happens either to her, or someone around her, and that thought makes my stomache churn." Innpatient treatment can work wonders - if they are deemed a threat to themselves or others they can be put in involuntary hospitalization, but if they act well while in there they may get themselves out after 72 hours.

At thios point you might consider getting yourself a therapist to help you free yourself from this situatiion which sounds frustrating. It also sounds like she could get violent if she believes people are trying to end her life. Be careful. It does happen.

CANDC

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