snow123, I always think of empathy and therapist going hand in hand--like you can't have one without the other. I would say, yes, it does matter to me. My current T is very empathetic. But come to think of it, my previous T was not particularly so. And we never had a strong connection or bond. Hmmmm.

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I have significant difficulty building an alliance with and talking to therapists who are more rationally than empathetically focused

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">Kim, so there is a whole branch of therapists (the rationals) who don't use empathy? Wow, that seems almost cruel to me. Would this group include CBT therapists? (My previous therapist was CBT, and as I wrote above, she was not particularly empathetic.)