Hugs, NP. You could be angry at both. Especially as he's also the one causing the situation.

I know this isn't the same thing, but it was also hard for me when Dr. T was moving and having delays and problems with that. And was expressing some of his stress about it to me. Like, I wanted to empathize with him, but at the same time, I felt like, "Well, you chose this. And it's very difficult for me." But I still felt like I had to hide some of those feelings. (Then they came exploding out during the actual move and after it happened...) Anyway. I'm not sure if it would help to talk about some of the anger now? Not sure how many sessions you have left.

I understand why it feels bad to hear what he said about not wanting to dilute the ending and having boundaries around his job. I'm sure I'd feel the same. But I can also see, in a way, that if you had what seemed like a good in-person ending--as good as that could be--maybe he's afraid it will be harder for to have to see him virtually in a different office and with limits on his time. That it will make you feel worse about things.

Do you feel like you want the check-ins, like it would be helpful for you? Maybe you could decide to have a couple, then see how you feel after that? Or another option is, if he's open to this, give it a bit of time, like a few weeks or a month, then see what you feel like doing. If you think it will be more painful to see him virtually in the new setting vs. not see him at all.

And I know this is already long, but are you thinking of trying to see another local T at all? If so, i could see where checking in with P could dilute that some.