Speaking of trauma that was the real reason son I left my husband. No way I was exposing My daughter to his abusive behavior. I didn’t want her to grow up thinking it was ok for dad to hit mum. Then I was committed and turned over power of attorney to my parents so she’d have a stable life. I was homeless for years, no way would I want that for her. She had a good life though it was hard to have grandparents for parents. We have a good relationship now.