This mother sounds a bit toxic, in my opinion. She's dropping not so subtle hints that she wants you to move out. Honestly, if you want a continued relationship (of some sort) with this woman, I would move in with your own parents and see your partner a little bit less. It's clear she doesn't want you there. so continuing to stay will not only be incredibly uncomfortable, but could harm your relationship even more, making things worse for both you and your partner. And yes, she is being contradictory going against her word, she is being very passive aggressive, and downright mean even. You don't deserve any of that. I personally could not stay where I am obviously unwanted. I think staying would not only be going against her obvious wishes, but it's not in your best interests. So, you would have to adjust to seeing him a bit less. Not a huge deal. You won't die from it. It's one year. If you have a strong relationship, it can withstand one year of living separately and seeing each other as often as you can. I do think it can be a lot to expect from a partner’s parent - to have both of you move in with them.