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Originally Posted by nonightowl
 I think you mentioned in this thread about emotionally unavailable parents. As adults, it can affect how we identify and express our feelings. I had the same kind of parents.
I validate my feelings and accept them, since I didn't get that growing up. Feelings are just ARE, not right or wrong. If that's how you feel, then that's how it is. |
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Originally Posted by JaneOnceMore
You are all welcome to join us bipolars on the virtual Christmas dinner thread over on the General Social Chat forum. What will you bring?
@ 3rd rock:
I've enjoyed several online relationships. They were very meaningful and i learned a lot and broadened my horizons as the men were from cities far away. Note that it's easier for women to enjoy online relationships because the physical is not as important to us, generally. I know you're struggling to stay realistic and i encourage you to persevere, for your own well-being. |
Thank you for your words of support. She and I have talked about it and she says that she has strong feelings for me but she's very cautious about saying 'I love you' due to past relationship difficulties and traumas. She says she's not ready to say that but she appreciates hearing me say it. So I'm just going to continue to say it every now and then until she's ready to, if she ever is.
I hope this could someday become a real relationship, but I'm not sure if it ever will. I'm afraid this will end in serious heartbreak and potentially a significant deterioration of depression if it does. But I can't control how I feel. All it takes sometimes is the slightest thing to send me into a downward spiral, and I have no way of knowing in advance what that might be. I hate it.