MyBestKids2: No, despite numerous promises she hasn't seen a therapist at all since she came out of the hospital. For the longest time I'd book the appointments, remind her, and drive her there myself. I'm not doing that anymore - either she wants to go, or she doesn't. I agree that it's vital for her to talk to a counsellor, because medication is only half the solution.

RelientK: I'm on this forum for honest advice, so don't worry - I never get offended. You're correct about right and wrong. Some factor - a disease, upbringing, peer pressure - may push you in a particular direction, but you can still choose to go a different way. I've been trying very hard with her and I've been very patient, but she's working against me, not with me. I'm still willing, but not for much longer if I'm putting in all of the time and effort and she's not contributing anything.

angelique: Thanks for your comments. Let me ask you something: what do you wish your husband would've done to break you out of your cycle sooner?