I recently had an encounter with a person in therapy, who was very angry with his parents. He said he would never forgive them, swore a lot, and started to rage when the topic came to them.
I was trying to understand, what this meant and searched on Twitter. I found a popular post, where the topic starter said "You should never forgive your abusers'. And for all the comments 'I forgave and it gave me the power to move on', people replied something like:
'It's not forgiveness, it's acceptance' (how would they know other person's feelings?)
or
'forgiving your abusers is abusing you'
how?
Damn, I can't. All these posts I see about mental health, about not forgiving your abusers, scare me.
They wish them death in the comments. What's the point? How can you get over a trauma by dwelling on hate?
What don't I understand?