Hey guys, long time no see
I hope the holidays are treating you all well...
I had a session with flipper today about which I'm kind of wondering. Especially given that I don't see T for some more and flipper is really, really trying. And while I feel fairly certain in myself, I always appreciate all the inputs you guys have.
So, rundown of the situation. I showed up today to therapy as planned and flipper quickly noted some injuries from
It was quite bad and he said he felt not comfortable with just letting me go back and that he'd like to call the cops, so we did. We went to a police station afterwards as we'd been told, but due to Switzerlands complicated state organization, we were told to file the complaint in my partner's home state, which is the next state over (30 minutes by train).
After we had left the station, flipper was not really sure about going to the next state over with me, mainly due to "not wanting to get too mixed up in my life" or "boundaries". However, he asked me about a minute later whether I'd want him to go with me and whether I'd feel it was a violations of boundaries, and when I said I'd want him to come with me and that I'd not see it as such, he pretty quickly after some thinking changed his mind. We didn't manage to get to the station, just because they close at... wait for it... 5 pm. But we will have a phone call seeing whether we decide to do it tomorrow.
I'm wondering what you guys think. To me, it's certainly a big help that my therapist would come with me to the police to file some complaint. I like that he is thinking about boundaries, while also thinking a boundary of "if I have to travel 30 mins instead of 20 then it is not fine" is weird. For reference, a 30 minute train ride here is almost nothing, people commute for way more than that each day.
On another note, the cops kind of bugged me. You show up with a stuffed elephant and your therapist and they go basically like "you know you just have to get over yourself and go to a different police station". But individually they were all nice, except for the lady at the check in. I suspect she might be upset she gets to work reception...