|
The difference.....your friend doesn't have "unknown" legal issues ahead of him. For me, those unknowns make more definite plans hard to think about let alone count on.
I am kinda still dealing with this too. Ca lawyer just sent me a letter today from the loan holder of the loan my name is still on the home I don't even own that was sold 6 1/2 years ago. The kind of "form letter" telling us they will look into it (again) & get back to us if a response is necessary by 1/16/25. I am paying off my new heat pump this month before interest starts on the loan but the rest of my savings is being put away for "unknown" legal expenses. A friend said, ah, you can get your master closet done now.....but I can't spend money I may need an unknown amount of $$ for a court case. Everything in my life is on hold until this gets resolved.
The unknown does leave us hanging until it gets resolved. I lived with a financially irresponsible husband for 33 years, I am not about to make irresponsible choices myself so in REALITY.....I am good with waiting & doing without at the present but I am really getting to the point I want to go in for the legal kill on the investor, the scam escrow company & the ex.
Oh, this just continually reinforces why I am so glad he is no longer physically in my life or I might be needing bail money (jk). Impossible for me to feel any love toward a person who has done these things to my life. I am just thankful I left & kept him totally away from my inheritance so I could make a foundational good life this far away.
When the unknown (divorce finalization) is over for you, you will then KNOW what you have to work with & plans for the future will be easier. We survive no matter what, sometimes we have to be a lot more financially conservative depending on the results.
My Ky divorce gave me everything I own here. Didn't want to mess with Calif because they have no jurisdiction here over what he does in Calif. Shoot, even Calif lawyers are basically useless too.
__________________
Leo's favorite place was in the passenger seat of my truck. We went everywhere together like this.
Leo my soulmate will live in my heart FOREVER Nov 1, 2002 - Dec 16, 2018
|