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eskielover · Jan 03, 2025, 09:02 AM

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Originally Posted by RDMercer

You have all seen me post lots of positive things on here.

The last few days have been a setback, and I'm scared of court.

There is a lot of "hanging on" in my thinking though, and not much moving forward with positivity.

Thank you, everyone.

RDMercer

You have a right to be scared about court. One never really knows the outcome until it is there no matter how much we prepare for it. I would go through stress before the Calif court hearing I had in 2018 & it was regarding the $$$ from the home, not the divorce.

When the court gets closer, we think about it more & stress & scared sets in. What you are experiencing is NORMAL & never feels good. It does build up closer to court we get because unknown outcomes based on a decision of someone else is never easy.

My T would ask me if I still needed her because I was doing so well & I always said YES cause I just need someone to talk these feelings & thoughts through with.

Just remember, those positives are ALL still with you through the stress, they are just dimmed by the brighter stress feelings but they are still there actually as bright as ever under it all.

Life will be brighter again after court no matter the outcome. Maybe have a chat with your lawyer regarding their plan of attack. That can actually give a small sense of relief building up to the court hearing.

Just remember that what you are going through NOW is normal with a divorce hearing in the near future