I am close but he maintains a distance. There is another who encourages the cannabis because they cannot deal with him straight. I don't feel this way.

While it no doubt has a significant effect, I think it runs deeper with a family history of sociopathy and disposable ties. His view of love is not mature, seeing it as a competitive sport. His judgement is the only correct way.

He wishes harm on others and is consumed by the belief it is deserved.