I work with a LOT of tradespeople.

Literally, hundreds.

My employer provides services to about a hundred small and large employers in my city. I'm on job sites all the time, and talk to lots, and lots of people. Some of them I have a 15 year relationship with through work.

About 90% of the people I deal with are blue collar men. A lot of these guys are lonely. A lot of the time their work isolates them, and because they work a lot of hours, the only person they have is their wife or GF.

It is SO common to see these guys have a marriage fail and then jump into another relationship.... which fails.. So then they jump into another relationship.... Which fails. So they complain there are no good women. Then they find one, and they move in quickly.... And it fails. I've known guys who were piling their ex's stuff on the front step for her to pick up, after the next one had already moved into his house.

No thanks.

And, not to poop on anyone else, but.... Who are you finding in those situations? Probably other people who aren't solid, who are hoping someone else is going to help them, support them, stabilize them, etc.

Having ONE intimate partner ex is hard. I don't want to have three. I don't want to sort out the emotional baggage of that, or deal with the finances of it.

I'm just fine waiting. After two years, I'm realizing.... A lot of the good ones AREN'T looking to date.

If you want to be partnered with someone, i really think getting to know yourself is the first step. You've been wrung inside out so many times you probably don't know what your values and interests are.

RDMercer