I reached out to her yesterday. When she was here last and wanted to have sex and I said no, well I wanted to be sure that she didn't think I was not attracted to her. I know what rejection feels like. She said she only felt that way for a sec and it was okay. I wanted her to know that I was attracted to her, and I think she said that wasn't an issue. That did bother me, her feeling rejected.
But then she started talking about the past, 30 years ago. She brought up negative things that I did, not what she did. I wasn't sure why she was doing that. So I brought up the fact that she cheated on me before we got married... I did that just to stop her and it work for a minute.
She didn't seem to want to really talk and said she's moved on. I couldn't understand why she kept coming back if the past is why she left after 30+ years.

I asked her if she would stop the non contest divorce if I filed before the 12 months period. She said she would not lie. I told her I was thinking of the Non Contest divorce to avoid her possibly losing her 401k, to scare her a little, and to mentioned it would be better than me filing for divorce due to Audltery or Abandonment.