I am sorry. It’s frustrating. I’d say if you only met 3 times, it’s not enough to know much except that you want or do not want to see him 4th time.

It sounds that perhaps he’s not ready for relationships but it could also be that he just is not ready to go to women’s houses or taking big steps that perhaps involve intimacy too early?

If you are interested in getting to know him further, maybe suggest dates in neutral public places. Not all dating experiences have to develop that fast. Sometimes taking it slow is the way to go. It’s only been 3 dates.

You could also ask if he’s interested in having more dates and how he wants it to go. He might reveal why spending NYE or going to your house makes him nervous (did you initiate both events?).

I hope jewelry class goes well. Not having a job is a stressful time. I know you’ll figure it out. Good luck with that