Oh I see.

I’d say if you met in November and it’s already January and you only saw him 3 times, there is likely something off.

Could be: Seeing several women and can’t keep up, drinks or does drugs (I dated alcoholic once and it took me awhile to realize that he bails when he’s too drunk to drive)

You initiate every time? And he bails a lot. Sorry actions speak louder than words. He is either not interested or there’s something wrong with him (beyond ptsd) .

See what happens if you stop initiating communication and don’t ask to get together. That will be your answer