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frostmourn said:
What things can I do differently to help her cope?


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That is quite a query frostmourn...really is.

How to help her cope...wow..I am impressed by that statement. I'm sure that is not at all what you were seeking..my silly approval.

But you didn't ask how can you cope and that is what so touched me...a great example stood before you some where along the way...

My advice is simple and may not invest itself well in your particular situation...Mother Son relationships can be complex and there may be issues that you haven't shared...

But IMHO,,support her insecurities by calling her on a schedule for a bit of time..say every other day at about 9 PM for example...then over time when she becomes accustomed to these calls insert a surprise call from time to time and just tell her you love her...short call but worth every second...

While communicating with her,,explain to her that you are a grown man and you love her very much but you cannot tolerate her beratement of your chosen partners..It is unfair to you and them..so if she begins any of this you will politely end the call.

In our lives we are often treated by what we allow and how we treat others..Loving boundaries are wonderfull examples of a strong healthy sense of self,,one who is strong enough to love another genuinely...

Again,,IMHO.

Lenny