No, sorry, I did not mean that you seemed to be blaming your gf. I just find it hurtful that these people, who are meant to be your friends, treat you like this. I meant that they need to hear how hurtful (rude and disrespectful) their behaviour is, i.e. with you speaking to them. Their response will also inform as to how much of a friend they are to you.

Yes, sometimes making peace is the way to go, but *not* when boundaries are trampled on. Also, they are not family - sometimes we are stuck with family but here you do have a choice.

As for distancing yourself from them. Sure, your gf may like them but she ought to understand that they are hurting you. Your hurt is valid. And she should not want to associate with people who so blatantly hurt their girlfriend i.e. you.

Bottom line, you deserve better than those supposed 'friends'. That was the gist of my post.